In the wake of the Weinstein / Hollywood scandals, many women are coming forth with stories of assault and men being generally creepy towards them. I applaud this, and sexual assaulters should absolutely be punished. However, the opposite can certainly be true, and men are also now sharing times when they were creeped on / assaulted by women.
Be warned: some of these can be pretty disturbing to read about.
When she won’t take “no” for an answer
Years and years back I worked in a call center and was friends with this girl. Didn’t think anything of it until she propositioned me to have sex with her. While I was flattered I told her I was dating someone else and I was not going to cheat.
Forward to a few days later I go into work and get pulled into HR, turns out she’s now filed a sexual harassment claim against me. She worked in one area away from me but they decided I needed an assigned seat beside my supervisor so that we would have no interaction period. I was fine with that until her friends started sitting not far from me, usually right in front of my field of view and she’d come over and sit and talk to them antagonizing the situation. My boss saw what was going on and brought it up to HR she was pushing the situation but it was her words not mine or my boss.
Few more weeks of me being watched like a hawk go by and I go into work only to find security and my boss waiting for me. Apparently she felt that me looking in her general direction was harassment enough so she filed another claim, this time saying I’ve been sending explicit messages and emails to her. This time my boss fought for me but I got sent home, walked out infront of the entire call center surrounded by security. I remember writing an email to HR and management that night stating I had absolutely zero contact with her since the night she propositioned me and offered my computer, a lie detector, anything to prove my innocence as long as they would question her.
Well.. They apparently brought that to her and she ends up confessing that she made the whole thing up and that she did that to another employee and got them fired because they turned her down. They let her keep her job, in fact gave her a fat severance package a few months later. I got stuck in the same punished seat, being threatened that if I told any coworker what happened I’d be fired.
I left a few weeks after that, but she had ruined my reputation, in that line of work I couldn’t find a job for anything for a while. Few years down the line she spots me on a dating app and tried to hit me up. To this day I still don’t get it.
When scissors are a girl’s best friend
My ex stabbed me with scissors, when I got home one night. She insisted that since I didn’t answer her calls that I was cheating on her. (I was not…) Scissors went 3 inches into my gut. In a daze of confusion I wrestled her to the floor in an attempt to stop her attack. I woke up 4 days later to learn her brother, who, while I was trying to subdue her… thought I was attacking her, hit me in the head with a cast iron skillet.
12 stitches and a slightly worse short term memory later, I said to myself I’m never talking to her again.. Don’t stick your dick in crazy stay with a “hot” girl when you know some screws are loose.
Sliding into DMs is one thing, but this is next level
This girl who works at my mom’s work (they’re servers) always tells my mom she’s going to marry me and thinks I’m cute. It wasn’t a big deal at first. But it got out of control for a little bit there. Commenting heart eyes and inappropriate remarks on any post my mom made with me tagged in it. She finally followed me on Instagram and liked everyone of my 700 something posts. And here comes the best(worst?) part… She starts messaging me through Instagram and I didn’t reply once but she begins having a conversation with herself with me in my inbox. Like asking questions, and answering them for herself and replying as if I said something and saying things like I heard from your mom that you’re going through a rough time and opens up to me about her past which is a long and inappropriate thing to send to someone who hasn’t even replied. This is among many other creepy things she’s done to me. She doesn’t bother me anymore though, just the occasional like on a picture.
Sliced in the back
Had a disagreement over buying her some new outfit dress thing. With the supposed victory going to me with we don’t have the money right now and we’ll see next paycheck compromise.
About and hour later while i was cooking dinner she came up and apologized then came in for a hug. which started nice and somewhat affectionate but ended with her pulling her arms away very quickly across my back. This was to have the two razor blades she had slice two deep slashes across my back. She ran away and locked herself in the bathroom. I called 911 and went got stitches and all the medical things (had insurance, thankfully). Obviously the relationship ended then and there. Looking back like 15 years later, it is really strange as we were together for about 3 years and didn’t have any major fights or physical altercations before that happen. It was so trivial with some massive escalation but in the end it taught me that yes I can cut someone out of my life… figuratively. woo puns
Framed pictures are no joke
A girl I had been dating for just a couple weeks invited me to her mom’s house for dinner. Halfway through dinner I finally noticed that they had printed out pictures of me from myspace (this was back when myspace was normal), put them in frames, and randomly interspersed them with other family pictures throughout the house. They were laughing hysterically at my reaction. I told them – very plainly and very seriously – that IF it was a joke, it was hilarious. But if it wasn’t…
They never actually answered whether it was a joke or not. We didn’t date much longer than that.